Some relationships are strong enough to last a lifetime. This is thanks to the constant efforts of both parties and their desire to be together. Although we are not relationship experts, there is no single secret to making a relationship last because it involves so many other aspects that depend on each other. But relationship coach, podcaster and author Jillian Turecki says that while you should never “chase anyone,” there are some good reasons to give someone a chance. Read also | At what age is it better to get married? Pros and cons of marriage in your 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond
“Your values match”
According to her latest Instagram post, here are 10 reasons to give someone a chance:
⦿ You feel safe with them
⦿ They are generous, kind and consistent
⦿ You have fun together
⦿ You agree with what a life well lived is
⦿ You feel accepted by them
⦿ You don’t challenge each other constantly
⦿ You communicate well with each other
⦿ Your values match
⦿ They attract you
⦿ You like their company
How to let go
She also wrote: “Never chase anyone. A huge factor in self-care is to stop paying attention to people who are emotionally unavailable to you. Instead, take all that energy and strive for a stronger relationship with yourself, so that you never set aside another day for people who don’t fully choose you.”
Gillian went on to say, “Here’s the truth: People spend too much time analyzing an emotionally unavailable person and not enough time moving on. Compatibility is the key to a successful relationship, and at the heart of what makes two people compatible is a shared belief in what makes a relationship great and what makes their life good. If you can’t accept that, you can have great adventures together, but you can’t create a great life together.”
She also added, “One of the most important lessons I’ve learned about love is how to let go. If someone believes that their happiness is somewhere else, I don’t stop them from finding it. I will never complicate my life by trying to convince someone to stay in my life. If you stay, stay because you want to and because you decide. Because we have to choose each other – and relationships, every day.”
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice.
