There are many things to consider before getting married, and according to relationship coach and author Javal Bhatt, having gentle conversations before marriage is essential. Before you decide to tie the knot, take some time to consider the “questions to ask yourself before you get married,” which Jawal recently shared on Instagram. Read also | 8 Things to Consider When You’re Getting Married: “Don’t Exercise Until…”
Questions to ask before marriage
According to Jawal, here are some specific questions to ask yourself about your partner and your life before marriage:
1. Can I accept them and their life wholeheartedly?
2. Do I feel heard and understood?
3. Do I feel comfortable and happy most of the time?
4. Have I known them long enough, at least a few months, and met them many times offline?
5. Am I real to them without fear, and do they accept me for who I am?
6. Are we even good friends?
7. Can I enjoy their company?
8. Can I have deep or tough conversations with them effortlessly and fearlessly?
9. Do I feel anxious and pressured or relaxed and happy after talking to them or seeing them most of the time?
10. Do I put in more effort or do they put in the same amount of effort?
11. Are my dream partner’s non-negotiable needs met here?
12. Are they reciprocated, emotionally available, or emotionally mature enough?
13. Are they able to accept me wholeheartedly or are they asking me to change my appearance or lifestyle?
14. Are we able to resolve conflicts, disputes and misunderstandings well?
15. Have I explained my life goals, dreams and situations to them?
16. Do they have a healthy relationship with themselves? Do they have bad habits that I can’t agree with?
17. Do my moral values match theirs?
18. Can we have fun separately? Are we giving each other room to grow? Can we balance work, health, family and relationships?
Final thoughts
If you have any doubts about these questions, Javal suggests, “Be really honest with yourself, because you can lie to the world, but not to yourself.” He adds that you should share these questions with your partner so that both of you “can work on them before you get married and make the right marriage decision.”
Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice.
