In the early stages of the relationship, the sparks fly, hearts race and everything feels electric. Such an undeniable craving, often described as chemistry, can feel that you have found “one”. But when the excitement fades, there are often questions: is it enough? We are really compatible? Although chemistry can start everything, it does not always guarantee firm love. That’s where the compatibility arises. (Also Read: The dating coach shares how to attract a truly generous partner: “Love should feel mutual” )
Dating coach and licensed therapist Kelsi Wunderlin shared on her Instagram on April 11 the point of real difference between chemistry and compatibility, and plays a more important role in building healthy and long -term relationships.
Do we pursue first and foremost in a relationship?
“You need both chemistry and compatibility to set up a great relationship … But most people are looking for them in the wrong order,” the therapist writes. “We learn to pursue this instant spark. If it is not present on today, we send the text” I didn’t feel connection “and move on.”
She adds: “But here is no one tells you: chemistry can grow, compatibility, not much. If you are re -evaluating chemistry, you run the risk of creating a strong attachment to the one who does not actually match you. The emotional bitter may feel exciting, but rarely leads to something sustainable.”
What is the difference between chemistry and compatibility
Kelsi explains the difference between chemistry and compatibility in his post:
You feel an instant spark and can’t stop thinking about it.
You feel calm because your connection is mutual, respectful and emotionally stable.
He is charming, flirtatious and knows all the right things you can say.
He is honest, he says he meant and matches your values and goals.
You are quickly connected with a -trauma or deep vulnerability.
You slowly build emotional intimacy because you are both emotionally available.
“Chemistry can grow, but compatibility can rarely,” Kelsi concludes.
Note for readers: This article is intended only for information purposes rather than to replace professional advice.
