Not shame
No child is constantly good. They are going to say sneeze things. They grabbed toys, screaming at brothers and sisters or rolled their eyes when asked to share. That’s ok. It is important not to avoid these points, this is how you handle them.
Instead of screaming or shame, pause. Ask them how they think the other person felt. Give them the words: “Can you try to say,” Excuse me, I hurt your feelings “?” Show them how to repair the moment, how to own what they did, and how to do it right.
This creates emotional muscles. It teaches them that kindness is not about being perfect, but about the remark when they harmed someone and try to fix it. This is the skill that many adults are still fighting. Start your baby to make it safe to be imperfect and good at the same time.
