2025 opens a new chapter. It’s a new beginning, and if your dating life is completely rusty, ending in toxic situations, stuck in the slimy conversation stage, you need to recalibrate and introspect to find your match next year. Kelly Bode Cama, a relationship coach, shares the five lessons that helped her move from a murky toxic relationship to finding the right match and eventually getting married. All hope is not lost if you find 2024 unlucky for love. She revealed these lessons that can help you change your dating game. These lessons are for single women.
You don’t have to be completely prepared
There is no prerequisite to be fully prepared before approaching a date. Everything in your life doesn’t have to be perfect to find love. It’s not about being flawless; it’s about accepting yourself and being open to growth. The relationship coach noted that it’s important to be “ready enough.”
She said: “I thought I needed to ‘fix’ myself and be fully fit before I could find love. But it’s not a matter of full readiness, but sufficient readiness.”
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You need a dating plan
Often, dating is based on feelings. But only trusting instincts can sometimes lead to repeating the same mistakes. By developing a plan, you can avoid past mistakes and approach dating with greater clarity.
Kelly explained, referring to her own experience, and said, “My old dating strategy was to say ‘it’s just fine,’ which never worked out well. When I started following the dating plan, I finally had clear guidelines to help me attract available men and not fall into my old patterns.”
You need to embody your femininity
A relationship is a balance of energies. In a world of toxic masculinity, where men with healthy masculinity are sought after, equal and healthy feminine energy is also needed. The idea is that relationships thrive when both partners bring balanced versions of their energy into the dynamic. It’s not just about gender roles.
She explained, “To attract a man in his healthy masculinity, I need to learn to embody my healthy femininity. Once I focused on that, I started attracting good men who I was interested in going on dates with.’
You don’t have to wait for men to make all the moves
You don’t have to be modest or shy. A relationship coach shared that even women should be direct and approach first. She said: “Femininity is not passive, and when dating a woman, women will invite men to her. I was the one who invited my now-husband to get in touch by DMing him on Instagram.’
You need support
A relationship coach shared her experience of how she struggled in her love life. But the main thing is not to be ashamed or proud to ask for help.
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Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice.
