A 34-year-old unmarried man from South India went online to tell in detail about his way to an organized marriage. Posted on the Subreddit R/InsideindianMarriage, a man, revealing what he wants to have a life partner, explained that women and their families continue to reject him and referred to the editors what to do next.
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The man shares why his reject women
The man said in a message that he believed that the modern creation “is becoming more like a business, not people oriented.” Sharing his personality and what he seeks, the man wrote: “I am looking for a person who has no religion, race, castes, languages, locations and borders. Hindu was born, but I refer to the amnest and agnostic … I take all people without harm.”
He describes his main philosophy of relations as rooted in principle: “Honesty, acceptance, loyalty + love, trust + transparency” – and insists on “strictly divorce” because “it is called” life partner “. As for parenthood, he believes in “not childhood politics”, but says he offers his future partner three options: “No child, adoption, or if he wants a biological child (in this order).”
“No pets or smoking”
The man says he leads health, without alcohol and lifestyles, though he is not against rare social drinking. He has a “no pets” policy despite loving animals when he prefers their freedom. His hobbies include a trip to unmatched directions, broad reading of history and mythology, as well as discussing the topics “from the smallest quantum world to the largest superclasses in the universe”.
However, despite the financial stable, rejecting the dowry and keeping his expectations minimal for the wedding, he says he has encountered repeated refusals. “Families are not convinced, even if I say that I plan to buy a house in the future,” he explained. Other reasons include the benefits of placing, castes or linguistic differences and even a horoscope mismatch – despite the fact that his family claims that they are flexible in love.
What does his ideal partner look like
His ideal partner, he said, would be “emotionally intelligent, cheerful and imperfect, but understanding the shortcomings of others.” He emphasizes mutual respect, equal to his career freedom and allowing freedom in the choice of clothing, as well as the importance of consideration of laws as his own family. “I just want to love one girl, deeply my life, and I expect her the same thing,” he said.
In the end, he wrote, “I am very honest and in advance about whom I seek … To avoid possible conflicts in the future,” calling others to give an honest opinion about finding a partner.
How did Reddit react?
The editors had different opinions about the man to take on what his future partner should be in the agreed marriage. While some criticized him for such a long list, others advised him to consider marriage as a trade union rather than as on Amazon’s control list. Some also criticized him for “allowed” to dress as she wishes or visit her parents if he wants.
The Reddit user said, “Nothing bad with you. Sometimes everything takes time and better late than making the wrong decision.” Another wrote: “You just have to wait for your match … more likely what will happen in love than I do.”
The user wrote: “This is literally perfect, perhaps go to the love marriage of the dude.”
Someone wrote, “The dude, if all you said, actually definitely contact the girls otherwise, not in Am.” Another said, “You are looking for a consecrated partnership in accordance with a marriage agreement in a community full of people who gave birth to the brain and dim.”
One user wrote: “Your control list is something wrong. Not a specific element is just the length of it.”
Another commented: “Why did you mention something like putting your clothes? Do you see a problem in this? Do you allow her to visit her hometown? Do you think that men normally give permission to her wives about how to dress or where she wishes?”
The necessary person needs to sort what qualities are on his priorities list and narrow it. Marriage is not a control list, and instead of determining a person by qualities, he or she needs to know the character of the people he meets. In addition, it must maintain basic values as transactions violators, but be flexible on the benefits so that it unintentions filter compatible matches. His intentions may be good, but strict statements may seem inflexible or controlling.
Note to readers: This article reflects a person’s account and public reactions. This is not a professional advice. Readers should turn to specialists by faced with the links and problems of mental health.
