Asking for help can also be a subtle way to flirt and initiate romantic interactions: study

Flirting is an art, and often people don’t know a healthy line to start and stop. But according to a recent study, healthy flirting involves creating addiction-related benefits. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that asking for help can help stimulate romantic interest and then take it forward. Also read | Relationship Advice: 4 Must-Have Practices for Couples to Cultivate Lasting Love and Happiness

Addictive behaviors are related to power imbalances. Although help-seeking can be viewed negatively in some cases, the study says it can portray help-seekers as dependent and help in a positive role in intimate relationships.

Evolutionary theories suggest that finding help can create close bonds between two people, which can benefit relationships. When romantic motivations are present, the act of asking for help can strengthen the relationship.

Research findings:

The study was conducted on 2,535 participants who were asked to participate in hypothetical scenarios and real-world interactions. The results were amazing. It was observed that the help associated with the addiction was the preferred autonomous mode of functioning. Participants recorded that they preferred to help the other person when there was a romantic interest. Also read | Want to increase intimacy and connection with your partner? Try these 5 expert tips from a relationship coach

During the study, participants were exposed to a romantic cue where they had to imagine themselves spending time with the person they wanted to be with. In such cases, seeking help from another person helped them form stronger bonds.

“Existing research has suggested a predominantly negative view of dependency-focused helping. In contrast, the current study aimed to test the positive function of dependency-focused helping in intimate relationships where interpersonal dependence is valued. We hypothesized that, dependency-oriented, may function in the communication of liking and romantic interest, and thus may be important in attracting mates. Thus, people in romantic relationships are more likely to see a potential rival as a poaching mate when that person has sought help focused on their partner’s addiction,” the researchers noted. Also read | Healthy Relationship Tips: 8 Ways to Be More Open to Your Partner’s Perspective