Do you often argue with your partner? Ask them these 4 questions that can change the way to approach conflicts

Arguments are inevitable in relationships when you face hiccups or obstacles. But the way you move the differences is what matters. They can either bring you and your partner closer or end up drive a deep wedge between you. It is important to understand that the way you respond in the heat, during the argument, has a pulsation effect, setting the tone for the next.

Crety and Jay’s coaches went out on Instagram and shared important questions, suggesting to ask the partner these questions to better understand and fight your behavior in hot moments.

Important questions you need to ask a partner:

They shared several important questions as well as examples you can ask the partner:

1. What things do I do during the arguments that worsen things? (Eg: You keep rolling through the eyes, you try to be sarcastic, you keep breaking me, you are distracted by phone, you don’t show facial expressions, and you think you talk to the wall, etc.)
2. What things should I stop talking during arguments? (Eg: You always do it, you overcome, you are so irresponsible, stop being such a child, I hate you, I never want to see your face, you disgust, etc.)
3. How can I help you calm down during a hot discussion? (For example: Lowering the voice, giving me time to give me the benefits of doubt, showing some gesture, such as offering a glass of water or a gentle touch, how to hold my hands, giving me a place when I feel broken, etc.)
4. What are the things you would like, I said more during our flights or arguments? (For example, I hear you baby, I see that this topic is really important to you, I want to overcome it together, we are in one team, etc.)

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When to ask these questions?

Moreover, there is time to ask these questions because the terms are all. Both partners ideally need to be calm and open to the dialog to respond to meaningful.

Here’s the perfect time when you can ask how they shared coaches for:

• Not during the fight: Emotions are already intensified, and discuss conflict patterns at this point, can remember.
• Find calm: If you are both relaxed and open for conversation.
• After the disagreement: After the things have cooled down, reflecting on what it worked and what could not improve future discussions.
• As registration in the relationship: Discussing this regularly can prevent repetitive conflicts.

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Note for readers: This article is intended only for information purposes rather than to replace professional medical advice. Always seek the advice of a doctor with any medical issues.