Manipulation can come from anyone you love, and the worst part is that you may not even know about it. It may feel sweet affection and will not look brazen as control. More than control sometimes comes across as concern, thin and soft. But this concern has a sinister force to control you and your thoughts, feelings and solutions. When you manipulate emotionally, you start a second arrangement of your own feelings and prioritize your partner’s thoughts, considering them as the last word in any situation to keep them comfortable with compromise.
When you got your head into the sand like a ostrich when you carry hot and cold emotional American American, it’s time to find out what’s right and what doesn’t.
On May 1, John Dabach coach went to Instagram to share five signs of emotional manipulations.
1. They force you to doubt the reality
If they constantly rewrite events or twist your words, it’s gas lighting and it is designed to break your confidence.
2. They use guilt to control you
Speaking “no”, you feel villain, they are not vulnerable, they are armed.
3. They move the guilt
Something going wrong? For some reason this is always your fault, even if it is obviously not.
4. They retreated to punish you
Instead of resolving the conflict, they are cold. No commitment. No words. Just silence designed to make you pursue them.
5. They turn the script when confronted
You call the problem, suddenly you apologize. They shy away from responsibility by turning the mirror on you.
A partner who emotionally blackmail has the upper hand on your emotions. They make your confidence fall and leave you deeply. Be it gas lighting or play the classic victim card, you get into a vicious cycle. Because they drained you from your self -value, you crave checking from them, seeking assurance or recommendation. With emotional manipulation, your partner gets into the dependence cycle.
Note for readers: This article is intended only for information purposes rather than to replace professional advice.
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