Chemistry is a trailblazer in a relationship, or at least it is a common consensus. How good it looks close to their crush as if they were made for each other. Either they are associated with their interests, like hiking or go to the jumping cafe. But what is really important for the relationship is more nuanced.
Satisfaction of a relationship that refers to how the fulfillment feels in connection with its partner plays an important role. Compatibility based on surface markers such as hobbies and interests is often regarded as one of the key factors that determine how happy and satisfied someone feels. But there is another, another nuanced layer also affects the relationship.
A study published in the magazine of sex and marriage therapy studied the benefits of sexual strength, such as dominance, subordination and emotional closeness, as well as beliefs about gender roles, and how they affect the relationship, which means that the relationships in the relationship depend on much greater than the attraction of the surface level. Prevention of gender roles either refer to traditional men -feeders and women -household farms, or to egoalitarian views that advocate equal roles. The study identified three types of thinking at these intersections and studied which one is the best for relationships.
Three profiles
The study studied 325 people who went to sexual therapy. Based on the answers, the researchers were able to notice three different profiles based on the perception of gender roles and sexual dynamics.
These are profiles that the researchers have identified:
- Dominant stereotypical thinkers– This group is small and mainly consists of men. They were only 3.7% sample. People who enter this group have sexually dominant and harsh in their preferences of sexual power. In the gender roles, the sample had a contradictory set of opinions, some believed in cruel gender roles, while others in egalitarian gender roles. But regardless of gender opinion, it was relatively strong.
- Tender conflict traditionalists– This group was 15.4% of the sample. They preferred more delicate sex, but were strong believers in traditional gender roles. They also supported some aspects of equal gender roles, creating an internal confusion. They reported low relationships and sought to avoid emotional intimacy.
- Flexible and agreed lovers– Researchers have identified this as the largest group. They prefer mutual, emotionally related sex from sexual domination. Moreover, they also rejected the rigid gender roles. As expected, this profile was mostly women.
A clear winner among three profiles
People who fall into the “flexible and consistent lover” category are obvious winners among the other three profiles, that is, they are likely to feel the pleasure of high relationships. This shows that egalitarian views have been seen in a more emotionally safe relationship. This indicates how important the system of beliefs are for real connection. Moreover, prioritizing emotional connection with sex rather than sexual power, whether dominance or subordination helps in emotional intimacy.
This call for wakefulness to understand what you need to prefer to get acquainted and evaluate the connection. Perhaps this is a good date discussing the belief system to find out if they are good. Hobbies and common mutual interests will not be able to give you a deeper understanding. The alignment of basic values can create a stronger connection.
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Note for readers: This article is intended only for information purposes rather than to replace professional advice.
