A 31-year-old woman who married her longtime guy a few months ago says she already feels that she may have made a “mistake I can’t cancel.” Having settled on Subreddit R/InsideindianMarriage for the advice, she told in detail about the recent incident that left the interrogation in the future of her marriage.
Young in the dilemma of her marriage
According to her account, her husband, 30 years old, recently left on a working trip. She refrained from addressing him during his working hours, but when he called at the end of the day, she started about her struggle. “I didn’t work in four days, and I am the kind of person who finished work on the wedding day, so it was a big deal for me,” she said. She told him she felt “very low” and hoped for comfort.
Instead, she says she offered only a few words before saying that she was tired and riding. After a couple of hours, still feeling down, she sent sending to ask if he woke up so she could call. An hour later, she got a picture when he drinks beer with his friends. “This image broke my heart,” she said. “All I needed is a text or a call to check me after I told him.”
Confrontations and cold answers
Over the next two days, she claims, he barely registered – having only spent “a couple of short texts, as I didn’t even exist.” It hurts, she sent him a long message, accusing him that he treated her worse than the enemy after her recognition. “Even after I said you didn’t think for a few days, you treated me worse than how the enemy treats someone after that confession. I do not want such a partner to do this marriage as I treat me that no longer matter. Hope you have a safe flight.
His answer: “Of course, I really have no answer to all the great words thrown there. I wish you good.”
He says he has not called or reported it since he came back from the trip two days ago. “It’s like I don’t matter,” she wrote, adding that she had a marriage full excitement, even planning to celebrate every monthly anniversary gift or gesture. “I told him that I didn’t expect gifts from you, just roses or even notes or just recognition will be enough,” she reminded. “He laughed.”
Now, she said, she feels that “as I am in this marriage” and wonders whether her like -minded is still. “If your partner doesn’t even care about your mental health and so avoids telling him I was depressed, or should I stay in this marriage?” she asked. “I feel that I need to restrain my all my love now, because it is wasted … If I didn’t have people in my life that would be broken, I would come out today without even thinking twice.”
Reactions to Reddit
The message provoked the discussion, and many readers urged her to reflect on whether she could fully meet her relationship needs.
A few people asked her how long she had met with a man before marriage, and she said the year. “How long have you been two dates before you marry? Some men just want a marriage to look noble in the eyes of society. They usually have a girl on the side. He probably reflected your love back, and so you married him now when he knows you here to stay to take you for what you are, when you get married, How on your own, you talk?
Another person gave his example: “My ex was also an emotionally unavailable person. He was available for me. I tried a lot, he spent his 6 years and married another girl, didn’t even tell me. God saved me.”
The person suggested choosing marriage counseling. “Some people are not emotional. They live a practical life and do not understand the sensitivity. We can’t do anything about it. I have seen such people around me who just want wives for the sake of family or society or his physical intimacy. They don’t bind and do not like the wife. I don’t know the reasons. Better you both go to counseling,” they wrote.
“I think you got married to the People’s Commissar, they first love the bomb, and then suck out all your love and happiness as soon as you settled. Later, the minimum bread dissolution is to keep you down until you dust love, he tries in a small gesture and give him another chance again.
As many believe, the rude ignoring her feelings on the part of her husband is not very good for this relationship. The first step for the couple after this episode must certainly be a marriage consultation, after which he is evaluated why he does not care about his wife. If love is lost, perhaps walking in individual paths would be the best option for both.
Note to readers: This article reflects a person’s account and public reactions. This is not a professional advice. Readers should turn to specialists by faced with the links and problems of mental health.
