A hot girl trap:
Why are you still single

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Nick Notas

The root of the problem

Internet dating and social media have twisted our perception of what is important in a partner. They taught us to focus on unattainable standards of beauty.

We make SNAP opinions based on highly edited one-second photos. Dating now is an amazing beauty contest where individuals barely get a chance to shine.

This obsession with appearance causes guys to ruin their chances of finding real relationships.

Here’s what they’re doing wrong:

• They just swipe right on what they think are the “hottest” profiles and then wonder why they get zero matches.
• They put beautiful women on a pedestal and are too intimidated to approach them in real life.
• They are not suitable for more quotes that do not evoke “attainable” women because they are so fixated on meeting the perfect 10.
• They go from amazing women who actually care about them to just chasing someone who is marginally more attractive but treats them like trash.

But there is a way to fix all this yourself.

Simple, game changing

Instead of getting caught up in rating how stunningly beautiful a woman is, try this: make it a simple yes or no question.

• If she kissed you, would you kiss her back?
• If she put her hand on her hip, do you feel turned on?
• If she was naked in your bed, would you have sex with her?

Yes or no.

If your answer isn’t complicated, don’t give it a chance.

Why it works: The ride is complicated

The attraction goes beyond just looks.

It’s about someone’s energy, their laugh, their intelligence, how they carry themselves, how kind they are, their smile, their voice, their sense of humor, how playful they are, their sexuality.

All these things which I can’t be captured in a photo.

I hate the room ranking system. But, for example, if you have a good dynamic with a woman you meet in person – she is instantly two points higher in your eyes than if you had just seen her as a “not perfect” picture.

And on the flip side, a “10” can quickly drop to zero if her personality doesn’t match yours.

Attraction still matters

Let me be clear about something: I am not telling you to date people you are not attracted to. Physical attractiveness is really important.

If you don’t have that spark, it will weigh you down and it will eat away at the relationship. If you’re not attracted to each other, it won’t work out in the end.

But here’s the harsh truth: Is that initial “OMG she’s so hot” feeling? It fades.

Long-term reality and novelty look

I can’t tell you how many guys have finally met their “dream girl” only to realize she’s not what they’re looking for. It’s like they created this whole fantasy about her appearance and the reality just couldn’t match.

And some men pursue super attractive partners just to show off to their friends or get verified online.

The truth is, no one really cares who your girlfriend is for more than two seconds.

in the end you the one who actually has to live with that person.

I promise you will never stay happy in a bad relationship just because your partner is awesome.

Are you even compatible?

Honestly, you won’t even click with many of the women you put on a pedestal.

I don’t throw shade at attractive women. I don’t buy the idea that being pretty automatically makes you shallow.

But if you’re the kind of guy who likes deep conversations about philosophy, games, or science, but you’re stalking inspectors on Instagram whose whole life revolves around social media and maintaining your image…

Well, would you actually be compatible?

Do her values, passions, or interests even align with what you would want in a partner? Will you even have anything to talk about at dinner?

If you want a fulfilling relationship one day, these things matter.

Discard the wider net during alignment

Now if you observe this thinking, “But I want someone who is beautiful inside and out!” – I hear you. This is completely fair.

But you need to understand that these women are in high demand and often have high standards.

So here’s my advice: expand your dating pool by continuing to be your best self.

You will now meet more women and gain valuable experience, which will only make you more confident and attractive in general.

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