Closeness and intimacy are what keep a relationship going. They help us feel connected, valued and truly understood by our partners. Whether it’s the honeymoon phase or the years that follow, building that strong bond takes attention, understanding, and a little extra effort.
“Creating intimacy in a relationship means digging deep into what really matters—confronting patterns of harmful interactions, eliminating triggers that keep us stuck, and healing past wounds that remain beneath the surface. But it does not stop there. We’re all about rebuilding those fundamental elements of friendship, trust, and love as the foundation for something truly extraordinary to thrive on,” says Amanda Twiggs Jones, marriage and relationship coach, in a recent Instagram post.
She added: “And then there’s a spark. Rekindling the flames of passion, intimacy and connection that may have died down over time. It’s about breathing new life into your relationship, creating a bond that not only survives, but thrives. These steps, they’re not just about superficial fixes, they’re about digging deep into what makes a relationship work, they’re about self-awareness, vulnerability and open communication’.
She went on to talk about five steps couples can take to increase their intimacy, connection, and intimacy.
1. Recognize conflict patterns
Identify any recurring hurtful interactions, such as arguing, avoiding, distancing, or criticizing. This awareness will help you prevent problems from escalating.
2. Uncover and heal your triggers
Explore your personal triggers and past wounds that may have caused them, allowing you to heal and prevent old relationship issues from resurfacing.
3. Repairing trauma relationships
Work together to address and heal past traumas—whether they stem from rejection, betrayal, emotional neglect, or a lack of family boundaries—to rebuild trust.
4. Strengthen emotional connection
Rebuild a foundation of friendship, trust, and support to strengthen your emotional connection and create a safe space for intimacy to grow.
5. Ignite passion and fulfillment
Cultivate deep intimacy and rekindle passion as you strive to create a relationship that is not only connected, but also fulfilling and joyful.
