In our rapidly developing social landscape of conversation around mental health, finally attract the main attention they deserve. But it is strange to see that we, as a society, often neglect one of the most powerful triggers of this issue: marriages that have no emotional connection.
This is when there are no high -profile arguments and visible fights, but each partner begins to close emotionally, feeling disabled, unprecedented and invisible, even when they are physically divided by one room, bed or even duties.
A busy correction of obvious signs of marriage disorders, we usually do not notice this most important aspect, because “just phase”, without realizing how chronic stress, anxiety and even depression in people at all ages. Despite all the entertaining photos on Instagram, Dream Fare Rables Reels and the schedule of joint upbringing, the couples feel emotionally alone.
In an interview with HT Lifestyle, Sakhin had, a certified pair of therapist who trained in emotionally purposeful therapy (EFT), and Bhavvyaa Kulsistha, a clinical psychologist, discussed key factors that nominate this tacit epidemic that can form the next BUDIP.
1. Neither fights nor connection
“The earlier marriage problems were about crying, physical violence or constant differences. But now we see a new type of disorder, where the couples come to therapy not because they are arguing, but because they are silent,” Sakhin says. In addition, it adds, from the lens of emotionally purposeful therapy (EFT) when partners stop contacting each other for emotional support, they unknowingly violate their safe connection.
Bhavvyaa adds: “Emotional shutdown is extremely harmful to the overall well -being. Over time, it leads to chronic loneliness, anxiety and even symptoms of depression, while at the same time, letting go to most families as” just phase “.
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“Social media become an integral part of our lives, modern couples prefer” to look happy rather than happy. “Without real emotional safety, couples live a double life, satisfied with publicly, in private and constant work of maintaining this facade, they harm the psychological impact,” – explains Bhavyaa.
“In the EFT, we often see couples who have stopped emotionally showing each other but continue to” appear “together on social networks. This inconsistency expands the gap further,” Sakhin says. Over time, this gap creates a sense of confusion along with a sense of isolation that none of the partners understand because everything seems normal outside.
3. I am looking for therapy too late
“When people come, they rarely say,” We feel far, “instead they report anxiety, burnout, irritability or loneliness, which they cannot completely explain,” Bkhavia says. She notes that emotional neglect does not scream, it quietly promotes. This quiet erosion can have significant psychological consequences, especially if people recognize the disconnect as a personal failure rather than a related issue.
Sakhin emphasizes that the urgent need to move our perspective around therapy, “it is not to control damage, but rather the emotional content. The biggest myth we face is that the couples should try everything yourself before seeking help. Thanks to the EFT lens, Sakhin helps to determine the breakdowns in emotional responsiveness before they harden.
4. Cultural conditioning
“One of the main reasons for emotional break in Indian marriages can be traced back in early childhood. We often saw young boys often ask for” being strong “or” men do not cry “, demonstrating emotional vulnerability, considered a female trait or weakness. Emotionally illiterate, ”Bhavvyaa emphasizes.
According to Sachin, the EFT focuses on the support of such people first to identify, and then report basic emotions such as fear, shame or need, without considering them as weakness. “When partners learn to be vulnerable together, even after many years of silence, the relationship begins to grow,” he says.
5. Silent shutdown himself
“It is expected that women in traditional marriages will suppress their emotional needs, and over time they begin to dissipate themselves from their own desires and identity. This is a slow, tacit form of emotional burnout.
In addition, she notes that many high -working women indicate therapy with burnout and anxiety, not realizing that it follows from years of non -professional emotional needs in their relationship.
Sakhin is reinforcing, “in therapy we have noticed that many women cannot express what they want from the relationship because they were never asked. They were taught to marry intact, no matter what.” He also emphasizes that the EFT is often manifested when women mitigate or silence their peacekeeping needs, while the partner man believes that the lack of conflicts is equal to healthy relationships. But this dynamics, when left without control, leads to mutual separation and long -term resentment.
